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Guest post: Hilary Grossman is living her dream

Today we have the honour and pleasure to welcome Hilarry Grossman to This Chick Reads. She’s an awesome, funny and kind lady, and also a new author ready to conquer the stage with her debut ‘Dangled Carat’. We’ll be reviewing her book soon and *whispers* we’ll be having an awesome giveaway of her book soon, so watch this space! Off to you Hilary and million thanks for visiting This Chick Reads and for your fantastic support.

I met Robert De Niro on Valentine’s Day at an event for work. I introduced myself to him and shook his hand. I felt like I should have also pinched myself, hard, as he has always topped my “celebrity I want to meet” bucket list.

There was a cocktail reception that followed the presentation. Rob, as he was affectionately referred to by the speakers, attended for a very short time. Many people swarmed around him, all with the goal in mind to snag a picture, including one of my colleagues.  She kept encouraging me to join her.  But I didn’t.  I hung back, away from the crowd and away from him.  I don’t really know my motivation.  I guess I was a little (okay a lot) intimidated by his presence as well as cautious not to overstep my boundaries since it was a professional event.

My colleague got the last picture with him before he left the building.  He was very kind and wrapped his arm around her as they posed and smiled for the camera. She proudly showed me the picture and chastised me for not joining her.  And I was instantly filled with regret.

I don’t know about you, but to me, regret is the worst feeling in the world. It is because I hate the feeling so much I wrote DANGLED CARAT.

Deciding to write a memoir about your relationship with a commitment-phobic man isn’t easy.  Especially when you know that you have to bare your heart and your soul, share your inner most feelings, as well as many embarrassing moments.  And don’t get me started on the s-e-x scene!

I lost my confidence many times as I wrote and traveled down the road to publication.   But I kept going.  Firstly,  because while I knew that elements of my story were unique, I also knew that dating a commitment-phobe was something that so many other women experience. I wanted my story to help them feel like they weren’t alone.  I wanted my experience to help them realize that they should follow their hearts and not only conventional dating wisdom and the advice of well meaning family and friends.  And secondly, I kept at it because I knew that if I stopped, if I didn’t keep writing, I would regret it the rest of my life.

While it hasn’t been easy I have no regrets. I lived my dream. I wrote a book, and based upon some of the emails from readers I have received, I accomplished my goal.  I helped others, who were in a similar situation, feel like they weren’t alone….

About Hilarry Grossman

Hilary Grossman dated a guy so commitment-phobic that she was able to write a book about their relationship. She is currently the CFO of a beverage alcohol importer and lives on Long Island.
Twitter = @feelingbeachie